Ek Awaaz Uthakar to Dekho

A poem in wake of the Delhi gang rape case. It's for those you think that this issue is related to particular person or a region. This might not help but collectively, we can make a difference.

'Ek Awaaz Uthakar to Dekho'

Kab talak yeh sochkar chhup rahogey,
Ki uss ghar mein aag lagi hain.

Pata bhi na chalega aur,
Ek chigaari tumhaarey ghar bhi aa gireygi.

Royoge bahut, chillaogey tab;
Naa ayega jab koi,
Tab shayad yeh dard samajh paoge.

Aag chaahei'n jaha'n lagey,
Iski lapet mein har koi giraft hota hain.

Aaj gar na roka isse,
Kal tumhara ghar bhi sulag jayega.

Aao aaj awaaz uthayei'n;
Kisi ek ke khaatir nahi,
Janhit ke khaatir, hum ek ho jaayei'n.

Hain asar bahut awaaz-e-awaam mein,
Khud ko kamzor samajhne ki bhool na karna.

Har-su badlega yaha'n ik roz,
Tum fakt ek awaaz uthakar to dekho.

Arz Kiya Hai...

A few of my shers for the shayari lovers!

Raat ka ye rumaani alam aur dil ki ye tanhaai,
Mat puch ae 'Nazneen', 
Is pal dil ko kiski yaad ayi!

Badla khudko uske khaatir is tarah 'Nazneen',

Khade ho ab aaene ke saamne,

Apna hi wajood dhundti hu.

Waqt ke khanjar ki ye talaash khatam to ho,

Bahut jee chuki ae 'Nazneen',
Ab maut se mulakaat to ho!

Do pal ki thi gar wo khushi 'Nazneen',
Gam bhi fir yeh muktasir hi hai.

Yunhi ek birha ki raat hum bhi miley the,
Yunhi auro ki tarah maine bhi kayi sapney bunne the.
Laut gaye ik roz tum un sapno ko tod kar,
Jee rahi hu mai un tukdo ke aks peero kar.

Guzarte hai jo raaste dil ki raahon se,
Untak woh pahuchte nahi.
Bebasi-e-hyaat hai kaisi ae 'Nazneen',
Milti hu har raat khwabo me unhe,
Haqeeqat me jo mujhse milte nahi.

Nind nahi ayi ankhon me meri,
Khwabo ko mere jabse tune alvida keh diya.

Ae rehguzar ishk ye ek karwaan hi to h,
Zindagi na khona fakt in do palo k liye.

Tum kya jaano hijr ki raaton ka nazaara 'Nazneen',
Sath khwabo me wahi hota h, hakeekat me jo paas nai!

Wo chauraahein dikha do.. 
Jo us raste le jaati h,
Laut gaya tha yaar mera jaha se..
God me meri ruswaiya daal ke.

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Shor

Shor sa tha bahut in kaano me,
Dil me ek be-chaini si thi.
Socha band kar du us awaaz ko,
Par na jaane wo awaaz kiski thi?
Band hui wo awaaz,
Sath ankhein bhi meri band ho gayi,
Nadaan thi mai jo samajh na payi;
Shor na tha wo kisi gair ka,
Awaz wo meri apni hi sanso ki thi.

Value of Love

Love is a highly misused word in today’s century. People seldom understand the depth & meaning of love. Love has many facets & meanings. Meaning of love changes in every phase of life. For a child, mother’s hug is love; for a teenager, having a partner is love; for an adolescent, having commitment is love & for an old person, companionship is love.

 Love is multifarious. Every facet has something to give, as love always gives. Understanding love takes a lot of time. As the old saying goes, "A lost thing is cherished even more.”  Same is with love. One realizes the value of love after it’s lost and loss paves way for regret and regretting anything is futile.

Love is the most cherish-able feeling in the world. Expressing and communicating are the two most important aspects in keeping love intact. Taking love for granted is a very common trait these days. True love has faded away. Meaning of love has changed enormously. In olden days love used to be timeless and these days love has become time-pass.

Valuing a person in his presence is sensible than loosing him and then realizing his worth. The moment is now and it will never come back again. Letting go off a valuable thing is utter foolishness. Express your feelings before its too late.

Time, Communication & Relationships

The world is shrinking as far as communication is concerned but this shrinking world has increased the radius of intimacy between relations. Everyone around is so engrossed in their own undertakings that they are unable to chalk out their priorities appropriately.

Like a sown seed needs continuous nurturing till it grows into a beautiful fruit bearing tree similarly relations too need continuous nurturing for their longevity. Giving time & communicating are the two integral nutrients required for a healthy relationship.

Relationships in today’s time keep going through stringent litmus tests. It has become difficult to maintain a healthy communication even amongst the closed ones. This is a cumulative result of various factors. The most common and toughest to deal with factors are lack of time and the ‘my space’ syndrome.

People fail to understand that communication is the essence of a relationship and cutting down on the communication, whether knowingly or unknowingly, leads to sourness in the relation which turns bitter after a certain time. To avoid this, one should prioritize the time in an efficient way. The ‘my space’ syndrome creates a lot of communication gap between people. Everyone wants there space but in getting/providing that, the essence of a relationship is lost. Communicating your feelings is essential in every relation.

Nobody has time until they decide to find it. Just giving an excuse for lack of time is effortless. When one tries and wants to be in touch with a person, he’ll find out time by any means. Life is uncertain and no one knows what’s going to happen the next moment. Loosing a person and then regretting makes no sense. One should take care of the relation when the person is there.

Marriage from a bachelorette's eye Part IV

It’s 2 am and I am still tossing in my bed thinking about Manav and our much hyped wedding. Feel like calling him and talking it out but there is something that is stopping me. Nothing hurts you more than the communication gap that you develop between you and your closest pal. Manav isn’t just my pal but he’s my soul mate and I am feeling guilty of avoiding him this way.

“Are you sleeping sweetheart?” I was too restless so I called him up.

“Am I in my dreams or are you actually on the phone?” He inquired in his lovely sleepy voice. I always love that tone of his.

“The way I have been behaving lately it might appear to be a dream but I am actually on the call baby. Can you talk to me?” I replied with the love showing in my tone.

“Hmm.. Sometimes I wonder how I will survive with you for the rest of my life. You are just so unpredictable. I have known you since we were born but still I cannot judge your moves.”

“Come on sweetheart! You know me much more than I know myself. I love you!”

“Aha! What’s the matter? Why are you being so romantic? Are you going to end this relation?” My over-show of love made him suspicious.

“I am trying to woo you with my love and you are predicting idiotic things. I guess you are still sleepy. It will be good to hang up now. I will call you tomorrow. Good night.” I got a bit irritated.

“Hey sweetie don’t hang up. It’s been quite long since I’ve heard your sweet voice. It’s been long since you said I love you. I am glad that you called.” He sounded so love deprived. It made me feel even guiltier.

Making confessions is not an easy job. All of a sudden you start feeling a lot of guilt for what you have done and I was feeling too guilty to do this to my sweetheart.

“Hey baby, I am really sorry for being so rude and selfish. I am already feeling that guilt. Please don’t make me feel it more by saying all this. I am really sorry.” I almost started crying.

“Don’t cry sweetheart. I love you. Oh Ridhima, I am not a fool. Darling I love you though you treat me cruel. You hurt me and you made me cry but if you leave me I will surely die.” He sang in his mellifluous voice. I just love it when he sings for me.

“I love you too sweetheart. I think you should go to sleep now. We will meet tomorrow.”

“I don’t have a problem sweetie. If you want I can talk and if you say I can come over to your place.”

“No I’ll be fine. Wanted to apologize and tell many other things too but will do that tomorrow. Good night. Love you.”

“Ok darling. See you tomorrow. Good night and I will always love you.”

His last words made me ease off my worries. I kept thinking of what will I say to him tomorrow. With all these thoughts running a marathon in my head, I kept tossing in bed till I fell asleep.

I woke up early the next morning; it was due the excitement I guess! I met Manav at a café for morning coffee.

“Wow! I can’t believe that I am having a morning coffee with my girl.” He joked.

“I guess you going to have morning coffee with me for the rest of your life now.” I signaled him about what was going on in my mind.

“But will you be waking up early everyday?” He raised his eyebrows in astonishment.

“If you don’t want then I will not do so.” I winked at him.

“Hmm.. Leave this. Tell me what is bothering my baby so much?” The smile on his face made me go weak in my knees.

“Marriage.” I preferred coming straight to the point.

“Tanya’s?” He inquired as if he wasn’t aware whose marriage I was thinking of.

“Our marriage Manav!” I said in a candid voice.

“Oh! Are you sure you want to talk about this?”

“Yes Manav. I am pretty sure about this now.” There was a confidence in my voice which he liked 

but at the same time it gave him jitters.

“I am really sorry for being so selfish all this while. I love you a lot and I can’t afford to loose you. I’ve been avoiding this just because I am not confident enough of taking care of you and your family. You have known me ever since I was in my diapers. You are familiar with my lousy lifestyle. You know I can’t wake up early, I can’t cook, I am irresponsible, I am short-tempered, I am afraid of this big commitment and I love you! These things can be changed but I don’t trust myself for bringing these changes though I promise I will try my level best to change myself for you sweetheart. Now tell me, are you ready to spend the rest of your life with a girl like me?” I said it almost in a single breath.

He held my hand, looked into my eyes, smiled, gave me a kiss and said, “I am aware of all these things Ridhima and I have already accepted you with it. All I wanted was a promise from you that you won’t ever let me go. I don’t want to rush into it until and unless you feel that you are ready for this and you don’t need to worry about these petty issues. Instead of you I will make morning coffee and I promise I will never complain about it.”

Before he could say anything else, I was down on my knees saying, “So you promise to make me morning coffee without any complain ever?” He was astounded by this gesture of mine.

“Of course sweetheart!” He bent down and gave me a kiss.

That is what I wanted. The surety of being accepted the way I am.

I was relieved of a big monkey on my back and now it was time to celebrate. Though the marriage date wasn’t decided but getting the assurance for the same from me was a herculean task for my sweetheart.

The bigger challenge is yet to overcome and it is to tie the nuptial knot!

Marriage from a bachelorette's eye Part III

“I’ll be back by evening.” I rushed out of the home screaming. Immediately my phone rang, “Ya Ma!” “Where are you going? You don’t even bother to inform me. Did you have your breakfast?” Breakfast was her main concern. “Yes Ma I had it and I am going for shopping with Tanya.”

When your friends get engaged it becomes difficult to keep them updated with the happenings of your life and when they come to know from the other source (read Manav) you are declared guilty of an uncommitted crime. Tanya planned to meet up and as she knew I wouldn’t, she made up this shopping plan which I could not turn down. Not because I love shopping but I feel shopping is the best part of getting married and this was my best friend’s wedding.

We met at a mall where we headed directly to the food court as I didn’t have my breakfast and I lied to Ma. She would soon find it out and call back to scold me.

Tring… Oh wow what a long life she has! “Yes Ma” I answered in a very low tone as I knew what the call was for.

“You lied to me. You didn’t have your breakfast. You don’t get up on time, don’t inform me, you wake up and rush out of home. When are you going to change yourself? You are 24 now.”

“MA, I AM 23.” And I banged the phone.

Though just one year more in my age won’t make much of a difference but I always get irritated when she increases my age. As your age increases, parents start getting ‘marriage pangs’ and the intensity of these pangs is directly proportional to the age. And my Ma was no different especially now when Tanya was engaged.

“Manav called me up.” Tanya broke the ice.

“What for?”

“As if you don’t know?”

“No I don’t know.”

“What is wrong with you Ridhima? Why are you being so insane? You are avoiding all of us including Manav. What is the issue? You never ignored him in these 23 years. At least talk to him if you don’t feel like discussing it with us. After all you both will be tying the knot…”

“Did Manav ask you to talk about this?” I interrupted with complete ignorance towards her talk.

“He didn’t. He just told me about your tiff the other day.”

“Ok. See Tanya you know me very well. I have to make a career before getting married. That is what I wish and I am not yet ready for the responsibilities that I’ll have to shoulder after marriage. I mean I am not saying that I will not marry Manav but I need some time.” Even I was confused about what I said.

“Ridhima, Manav will never stop you from making a career. You know him better than I do. Don’t you?” Her voice was at her politest and sweetest.

“Leave this, you tell how it is going with Abhinav.” I tried to change the focus from a fictitious marriage to the real one.

“Why do you always switch topics? Why don’t you talk about it at once? The day you’ll start doing so, half of your problems will end.” She sounded like a typical Mommy types at this point. It showed that she is a grown-up, mature lady all set to get into the marital bond.

“Ah! Will definitely talk about it today but at this point I want to hear your story. Please.” I could have never ever been politer than this while convincing.

“It’s a very good feeling.” She started blushing. “You finally know the one with whom you are going to settle down. The one whom you can rely blindly. The one who will always be by your side, no matter what the situation is. Now it feels like true love, true sense of belongingness.” 

Her eyes were sparkling with love.

“Aha! Somebody is so lovestruck at the moment. I am too happy to hear that and happier to see you so happy.”  This was the first time, since her engagement that I was genuinely happy about it.

Her stories of the love went on till, I don’t remember the hours exactly. All the while I kept wondering that it’s been just 2 weeks and she has so much to tell. So much love has been poured upon each other in just few days. My mind kept switching between her marriage and my marriage.

“Hey enough of my stories let’s talk about you now.” She broke my thoughts. “Do you want me to call Manav over?” She intrigued with a little hesitation.

“I guess I should talk with you first. After hearing your experience, I am feeling a bit positive about it but in your case you don’t know Abhinav and I have grown-up with Manav. The best part about it is that he understands me so well and that is what the girl needs from her man. Manav indeed is my man but I feel I am not yet capable of being his woman. The major issue is that I feel to be unfit for this bond because I can’t take these responsibilities. You have seen us, every now and then I keep fighting with him and he tolerates my tantrums but will he be able to do that for the whole of his life? I can’t cook, I don’t wake up early, and I know nothing about my career at this point of time. I am so puzzled up Tanya how can I be assured that he will be happy with me? These are the thoughts that trouble me & people think that I am a spoilt brat who is running from reality. People’s thinking never bothered me but lately Manav too joined that league and that is what has disheartened me the most.” Phew! I bursted like an over bloated tube tire.

With a smile on her face she said, “Don’t you think you should discuss these things with Manav? After all he is the one who should know these things and as much as I know him he will drive away all the worries within a bat of an eyelid.”

Avoiding your friends and closed one results into the misery that I was in. Discussing these things with Tanya made me realize this. I think she was right; I should discuss this with Manav ASAP!